For the month of June I will be postponing the Psalm 119 study. The next 30 days devotionals will post for this challenge. If you would rather receive the entire challenge in word document please let me know and I will send the attachment to you.
Also please forgive me for any typos. This was done over a short period of time. This is the rough draft. I will be making corrections as I go over this with my own children.
As the nature of a new study goes, day one is longer than the other days. However these are fairly short and can be as little or as much as you would like them to be. I am praying for us all on this journey!
I will employ the S.P.A. method often for them. It stands for Stop, Pray, and then Act. When we feel something uncomfortable rising up in our hearts it is a cue to stop, pray about it with God and make it come into agreement with His truths then Act. They need to learn this as an act of self-control.
“What is causing the quarrels and fights among you? Don’t they come from the evil desires at war within you? You want what you don’t have, so you scheme and kill to get it. You are jealous of what others have, but you can’t get it, so you fight and wage war to take it away from them. Yet you don’t have what you want because you don’t ask God for it. And even when you ask, you don’t get it because your motives are all wrong—you want only what will give you pleasure.” ~James 4:1-3, NLT
Break it down. There are six problems to address here. We will look at two a day for the next 3 days.
1-You want something you do not have.
This is coveting. It is one of the ten commandments that God lists. The reason? When we covet something someone else has we are not loving God or the other person. God is the provider of all good gifts. Every good gift we have is because God has given it to us (James 1:17). When we desire the things that others have (the good gifts that God has given them) we are saying in our hearts to God, “I do not like the things You have given me God, I want that instead.” It is like a spoiled child who never has enough.
If you pay attention to the warning signal within yourself you can stop this. When you start to become discontent with what you have when you look at someone else’s thing you feel uneasiness in your body. It is like when you are about to throw a temper tantrum you can feel it rising. You must stop it. Otherwise it will move into a fight. It is something in your heart you need to control. If not then it will move to the next thing we will talk about from the James verse.
2-You scheme and kill to get it.
Now reading this you will probably think, I am not going to kill someone! This does not apply to me. However, Jesus tells us that if we hate someone in our heart that it is committing murder. This coveting can move into hating or murdering someone in our hearts. We must not do it!
Scheming is manipulating to get what you want. It is like stealing candy from a baby. You think of a plan to go to them with something that looks more appealing to get what you want. This too is wrong. It is not being satisfied with the gifts that God has given you. It is a form of lying and trickery all rooted in pure selfishness. It is the furthest thing from Christlikeness.
Each day there will be an action for you to take to help you in your relationship with your family by living at peace. Each action will be based on the Scripture that you have studied. I want you to focus on this all day.
Help your children identify these cues and direct them accordingly. Also, you practice this as well. We must all be peacemakers too for this to work with our children.