Monday, January 7, 2008
Marriage Monday-Three Things Your Daughter Must Know
Today is Marriage Monday. See what others are saying at e-mom's blog and join in on the discussion.
Three things your daughter must know for marriage. This is so important to me because I did all things the wrong way. I can come up with many things to share but since we are going with three I will list the three most important things that made the biggest difference.
1-Do not be unequally yoked.
Because of not following this instruction from God's word my husband and I suffered much pain. It took ten years to really get our marriage to what God designed it to be. The husband was made to be the spiritual leader of the home. On one hand it has been amazing to see God's transforming power on a marriage and how He could take two messed up people and make them whole. That is amazing but the deep pain that we had to walk through, press through, and weep through was something that I would not want to wish on anyone. So, do things right the first time and it will save much pain and grief. Although God will restore those wasted years it would be better to not have wasted them at all.
Did I stress that enough? It is so important to talk things out with one another. Especially your feelings and the way you see things. Always remember your spouse cannot read your mind. You come from two very different backgrounds and upbringings. Just because my dad showed me or my mom love by doing certain things does not mean my husband will automatically do that too. Learn one another. Study one another. Never stop talking openly and honestly without nagging or accusation.
This should be first on the list really. It is so important to pray for your spouse. Pray that God gives you the proper perspective on things. Always remember you are one and your losses are his and your victories are his. You share everything and are one. You need proper perspective at all times in this. It is easy to think your spouse is your enemy. Remember you are on the same team. Only God can keep you fixed on the proper perspective.